Regardless ... STILL FAMILY ...

[Written SEPTEMBER 11, 2008]

Regardless ... STILL FAMILY ...

Does BLOOD really make one family? The Average person would probably say yes, but to an Adoptee like myself, We say Different!

LOVE makes one Family! UNITY makes one Family! and most of all ... GOD makes one Family!

I know that it's been quite a while since I have written a blog, and several of you have asked me what was going on in my world (A sistah has been extremely busy)... Well before I go THERE ... I have to share this particular story that took place in my life the ending of last year (2007).

One of my biological brothers, I have two, but the one I am talking about is the one right above me. He and I was talking one day and I began to question him if he knew who my father was and did he have any idea who is father was or who our other brothers father was or most importantly, Did we all have the same father? He shared with me that He knew for sure that he and I did not share the same father, but it was a strong possibility that my oldest brother and I shared the same father. Hmmm, that would mean that our mother got involved with my middle brothers father and then decided to jump backwards to my oldest brother's father and have me. Hmmm lol ... OOOO K!

Anyway ... he told me that he use to date one of my oldest brothers cousins (YES! I know what is going through your head, because believe me that same thought and awkward look went through mine as well LOL) ... He went on to tell me that at the time they were dating they had NO idea that she and our oldest brother was related. But one day my brothers THEN girlfriend/oldest brothers cousin was being questioned by her mom as to who was this mystery man she was dating ... she then shared my brothers name, and her mom proceeded to ask of his last name ... she shared that as well ... AND A SUDDEN 'LIGHTBULB" went off in her mother's head and she made the following statement to her daughter: "I BELIEVE YOU ARE DATING YOUR COUSIN!, THAT IS SO and SO's SON"

Can you imagine what went through her head?

WOW!!!!

EXACTLY!!!!

ANYWAY ... they all learned that this young lady's father was my oldest brother's uncle. His brother is my oldest brother's father! So this along with some other things caused my younger brother and this young lady to end their relationship.

OK DID YOU ALL GET THAT??? (That was ALOT to inhale I know) lol ...

NOW ..........

My younger brother shared that he could get in touch with this young lady (his ex) and have her call me ... and HE DID. He went to this young lady's mothers job and shared that he just met me, his biological sister, who could possibly be related to her daughter as well. A few hours later on that SAME day, I received a phone call from a young lady by the name of Janelle ... she asked me a million and one questions that day ... but we connected right away ... she then called her father and I had the opportunity to talk to him on a three way called and I shared with him who I knew my birth mother to be ... and indeed he knew who my birth mother was ... they use to hang out together and live together ... he called my mother his CLUB PARTNAH ... lol.

He began to share things with me about my mother ... MY MOTHER WAS OFF THE HOOK! lol ... He told me how people were scared of her, she loved to fight, and could dress her butt off, loved basketball and pool. WOW ... Sounds like me when I was growing up!!!! SCAREY!!!! Anyway ... he went on to share some REAL DEEP THINGS about my mother and his brother ... (things I won't get into on here, but when my book is released ... I will share) ...

One thing that really touched me that night after talking to him was this:

"Sweety, I don't know if my brother is your father or not, my brother was out there and it's very possible, we know that he has ALOT of children all over, but claims NONE, only the 3 that currently live with him. But sweety, it doesn't matter if you are his or not, you are STILL MY NIECE just because of who your mother is. I loved that woman, that was my good friend, and I miss her, you have gained an Uncle, and you are loved."

As Uncle Gene spoke these words, Tears began to stream down my voice, and his voice began to weaken, and I noticed that we were both in tears. I can't remember what all I responded to all that he said, but whatever I said, he shared that I sounded just like my biological mother.

To hear that you sound like the woman who birthed you, a woman you've never had the opportunity to meet ... meant a lot to me.

Can I tell you that Uncle Gene called me almost every day after that ... every conversation I was able to hear more and more stories about the woman who birthed me. What a blessing!

My Cousin Janelle (Uncle Gene's Daughter, My Oldest brother's first cousin and my younger brother's Ex-girlfriend - YES! I know WHEW! lololol) ended up giving me another Uncle's number and I had the pleasure of talking to him as well and it was Ironic because he said almost the exact thing that Uncle Gene said. It blew my mind!!! Even my uncles wives were very receptive of me ... I have the pleasure of calling them my Aunts ... It's a BEAUTIFUL BLESSING!!!! I realize that NOBODY could have done this, THIS WAY, BUT GOD!!!

I must say they are a bunch of SWEET people ... and it's a blessing to have people who were a part of my birth mother's life ... NOW a part of mine. You can't tell that we've only been talking since the ending of last year ... it's as if we have been in eachother's lives all of our lives. NOBODY BUT GOD!

I AM TRULY BLESSED!!!!

I haven't had the opportunity to meet their brother, my oldest brother's father, and my possible father, although I have driven by his home ... too nervous to approach the house. But I guess in due time ... a CHANGE WILL COME! I realize EVERYTHING has a SET TIME and PURPOSE. I know some will probably question: "Tee, Does this man know you exist and have been in touch with his brothers?" ...

The Answer is NO. Unfortunately, He and his brothers are not on speaking terms at the present, and haven't been for several years. And NO, this man has no idea that I am looking for him, and who knows, he may not even know I exist or even care for that matter ...

But I am not affected by that or the thought of that ... YET ...

I am Patiently awaiting for the RIGHT time to do the RIGHT thing ...

Ok, I wanted to share this portion and will be back SOON to share more and give you an UPDATE on the relationship between my two brothers and I.

Continue to keep us ALL in your prayers!

Until Next Time ...